School Issues Easter Seals Story: Getting Help for Bullying It's a reality many tween and teen kids know too well. Learn how one, Nick Brown, grew more confident and overcame challenges with Easter Seals Michigan. « Previous Next » Kristen J. Gough • July 29, 2013 Add Comment Total: 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 Fifteen-year-old Nick Brown just wanted to have friends, but those friendships came at a cost – constant bullying – that took an emotional toll and had him wanting to leave school. But with help from Easter Seals Michigan, he now has true friends and a true purpose – stopping other kids from being bullied like him. A widespread problem The start of the school year brings new experiences for all children – different teachers, a transition from elementary to middle school, perhaps taking the bus for the first time, or maybe just struggling to fit in. Unfortunately, for some kids going to school might also bring other challenges in the form of bullying. Find an Easter Seals Michigan location near you. In the 2008-09 school year, the most recent statistics available, 28 percent of students ages 12-18 reported being bullied at school, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Overall name-calling and insults were the most common type of bullying, but students also talked about being threatened with harm, pushed, shoved and cyberbullied. Twenty percent of girls and 25 percent of boys said they had either bullied, been bullied or both – at least two to three times or more a month. For parents looking for support and services for their children – whether the child is the one bullying or being bullied – Easter Seals Michigan offers a variety of support programs to help families. Nick’s struggle When Sharon Brown’s grandson, Nick, began getting angry every day after coming home from school last year, she wondered about what might be upsetting him. “The moment he got out of school he’d slam the door and just get angry and say, ‘I’m never going back there. I don’t like that kid. They all hate me there,'” recalls Brown. The 15-year-old already had difficulties fitting in at school because of his disabilities. Nick is on the autism spectrum and also has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). The bullying at school seemed to affect Nick in different ways, including triggering in him both anger and depression, eventually requiring hospitalization in February of 2013. “Nick’s very, very quiet about things. You have to pry things out of him,” says Brown. Nick did admit to his grandmother one reason he was reluctant to talk much about the bullying – he just wanted to have friends, even if it was with those who were constantly making fun of him. How Easter Seals helps Brown met with administrators before Nick returned to school. Representatives from Easter Seals participated in the discussion to support Brown and to see how they might lend additional assistance outside of school. “Supporting children and families within the school environment is an essential and expected component for effective treatment,” explains Brian Edwards, a family support specialist at Easter Seals Michigan. “Oftentimes, parents and children enter service with a long history of frustration and failure with their school experience. Easter Seals works alongside teachers, school social workers and administrators to create an environment of safety and success at school.” Edwards notes that Easter Seals tailors its services to match the individual needs of the family. “For some families simply making phone contact with school staff on a regular basis is enough,” he says. “For others, more intensive interventions are necessary.” A turnaround for Nick The school worked with Brown to develop in-school strategies for Nick to let others know when he needed help. Along with therapy services, Easter Seals made sure Nick became more involved with his peers. He’s a member of their Teen Advisory Council, or TAC, where teens meet regularly to socialize and to plan community activities. He also has a mentor from Easter Seals who comes to the Browns’ home twice a week to hang out with Nick. “At the Teen Advisory Council, the kids can talk about things that are happening in their lives without having parents around. We’re not allowed,” laughs Brown, who participates in Easter Seals Parent Advisory Council, or PAC. “It’s good for them. They have a good time. They’re thinking about things where they can get involved in the community.” Standing up against bullying One way the teens from TAC determined they could help the community was to raise awareness about bullying. Edwards says that the teens were the ones who came up with the idea to focus their efforts on stopping bullying. “Easter Seals Michigan owes a lot to TAC,” he says. “They’ve led the charge on anti-bullying and we’re supporting their efforts in every way we can.” The teens developed a “Stop Bullying” pledge that they and other teens can take, designed T-shirts to showcase this pledge and even planned a rally against bullying. Edwards is quick to point out that the teens’ pledge targets helping both those who are bullies and those who are bullied. The STAND pledge says, “I will … Speak up for the bullied. Treat everyone with respect. Apologize when wrong and forgive when wronged. Not be afraid to walk away. Do what is right, even when it’s hard.” For Brown, Nick’s involvement in Easter Seals has helped her understand how to help him through difficult times, and to address his social and emotional needs at home. “I don’t know where I’d be without them,” Brown says. Signs and what parents should do Edwards, who directly counsels teens who’ve been bullied with Easter Seals Michigan, says parents should be aware of these possible signs of bullying: Changes in friends (either new friends or lack of friends) Not wanting to go to school Bruises or scratches on your child when he or she comes home from being out Lack of self-confidence or self esteem Choosing isolation from other kids Headaches or stomachaches Trouble sleeping from nightmares And, if you suspect that your child is being bullied: Talk to your child. “There’s a lot of power in just asking and being willing to listen,” says Edwards. Trust your instincts. “You are the expert on your child. You know what’s normal and not normal for your child.” Reach out for help. Call Easter Seals Michigan at 800-75-SEALS. “We can connect parents and teens to the support they need.” Find out more. Easter Seals Michigan’s website www.essmichigan.org offers information and resources for parents. Easter Seals Michigan serves and supports people with disabilities or special needs and their families, so they can successfully live, learn, work and play in their communities. Easter Seals has been serving Michigan residents since 1920.