No (or Fewer) Gift Ideas for Kids’ Birthday Parties

Tired of piles of presents that your kids just forget about after the big birthday? Here are some tips to getting more meaningful gifts

No or Fewer Gift Ideas for Kids Parties

Mom Sarah J. Perry wrote a small note on her daughter’s birthday party invitations one year, one she thought would be easily obeyed, preventing her guests from wasting time and money. But despite the request for partygoers to bring “no gifts, please,” Perry’s get-together ended in a mound of superficial plastic and a graveyard of gift-bag carcasses.


A common problem

“The smaller things that didn’t take up extra space, she kept,” says Perry. “But the larger toys were given a couple weeks for her to play with, then they moved into the basement briefly. (Then) I donated them to my church’s outreach center. She never even noticed.”

It’s a relatable parental predicament. Part of planning parties is preparing for the onslaught of gift glut. What started as a fun and memorable occasion ends with a slew of forgettable toys soon to be stored in a closet or stowed under a bed. Breaking through to guests that their presence is present enough might be tricky. But as for coming up with alternatives to honor their generous spirits, it’s anything but hard!

Really useable ‘stuff’

So how can you throw no-gift birthday parties – or at least one with more meaningful presents? You can request non-perishable goods, pet-care items and toys that can be personally donated by the guest of honor to those in need. Politely pose that patrons all pitch in for one big thing like a Wii, a trampoline or a trip to summer camp. Or ask for gender-neutral gifts and hold a White Elephant exchange among all the guests.

Plan on starting a garden this year? Have a farm theme party and ask guests to bring seedlings for your little tyke’s own slice of the plot.

Ever wonder how many toys it takes to get through college? Find out. Ask guests to donate to a school fund instead of the usual plastic plaything. Have a special piggy bank they can sign after stuffing it with education-bound dollars.

Amp up your home library and hold a book theme party. Ask attendees to bring a gift-wrapped book, dress up as their favorite character and participate in a wiggle-bookworm race. The winner gets the first pick from the pile of new or previously enjoyed reading material.

Money-free fun

Kids love to do it themselves, so let them have at it – at a sundae party. Each guest brings a favorite topping, parents scoop – and deliciousness is had.

Foster some childhood creativity and ask guests to make a page for a “Birthday Book” instead of buying a gift. Send out pages with invitations and encourage the use of confetti, sparkles, paint and pictures. Put the book together during the party so everyone can see it before they leave.

Or ask guests to donate to the local zoo or a charity in lieu of bringing a gift. The World Wildlife Organization offers tigers, sea turtles and pandas for adoption in exchange for donations. Or ask guests to contribute to Trees for Life International, which will plant a tree in their name.

The bottom line

But what about those guests who just aren’t willing to let the gift-giving die? Combat their efforts with an invitation that clearly states all gifts will be donated, and choose a hospital or charity that will be happy to accept kid-oriented donations.

Any way you spin it, make sure guests know you’re really grateful for their presence – and it’s the memories you’ll treasure for years to come. That’s why single mom Gloria Vettese says she only holds “No Gift” parties for her son.

“Good times, happy memories, self-confidence, strong friendships will always mean more than a pile of junk – and the sooner he starts to appreciate that, the better,” she says.

This post was originally published in 2010 and has been updated for 2016.


  • Leslie G.

    Love this idea! I even have a hard time buying gifts for nieces and nephews. I’d rather put money in an MESP fund then give them a toy that’s expensive and they will forget about in 2 weeks.

  • My daughter wanted a birthday party, but I knew gifts would be inevitable. As she is an only child, I especially want to make sure she’s not overly showered with gifts and attention. So, last year we had a Christmas party instead. We planned the entire event in 6 days. Went with a Frozen theme, cutting out a ton of paper snowflakes as decorations, bought lifesize Anna and Elsa posters to play pin the snowflake on the princess along with color your own Frozen tattoos. All kids came in their jammies. We even did blue Jell-O shots for the adults (all neighbors who walked over). It was a fun, no-stress party for all. No one even thought of bringing presents, since it wasn’t a birthday party. The Partys focus was where it should be: having fun with friends and celebrating life!


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