What are some ways parents can help teens:
“Not all parents know how to say I made a mistake. I think honestly all parents fail their kids because we’re trying to figure it out too and there’s just no perfect book. Sometimes we trip and stumble. I think the best way to role model that for young people is to be honest about our own mistakes. I think when parents don’t do that, as young people get older, once they are starting to notice that and be able to put words to that, they become resentful because they are angry and they don’t understand.”
Help them determine what’s real and not real, especially as social media paints perfect lives, she says.
Also, tell them the truth and keep talking with them.
“There will be days you don’t recognize them and then one day you’ll realize they heard what you said, they’ll do something that they actually absorbed the value you were trying to teach them. Young people just need to know what our values are. What do you believe and what do you want me to do? I think we start off by demonstrating those values when they are really young and I think, young people, by the time they are teenagers, they are trying to uphold those values as much as they can. Sometimes they question them, but I think for the most part, they really want to make their parents proud, they really want to do the right thing, and they’re really just trying to figure it out just like us.”