The end of the school year is always hectic, no matter what grade your kids are in. You’re trying to keep up with field trips, half days, field days, prom, graduation, award ceremonies, etc. You’re probably so busy, you’re not even thinking about summer.
Now is the time parents of teens need to start anticipating the freedom their children will have during the summer. We spoke with Nancy Buyle, School Safety/Student Assistance Consultant for the Macomb Intermediate School District (MISD) to learn some tips parents can use this summer to keep their teens safe.
Establish expectations and help your teen get on a routine
“It’s important for parents to establish expectations early,” says Buyle. “Set clear rules around curfews, screen time, social media, chores and who your teen can hang out with.”
It may be best if you help your teen establish a summer routine – that way your teen isn’t just sleeping in every day and only hanging out with their friends all day long.
“Without the structure of school, a daily schedule (even if relaxed) helps maintain good habits like waking up at a decent time, exercising, or doing something productive,” she says.
You can even have them help out around the house more since they will be home. Give them a job to do at home this summer. You can even suggest they try getting a summer job to keep them busy this summer.
Help your teen find meaningful activities to keep them occupied
“Help your teen find a summer job, volunteer opportunity, sports league, or creative hobby,” says Buyle. “Keeping busy reduces the temptation for risky behavior.”
There are tons of locations, including our Huron-Clinton Metroparks and Parks and Recreation Departments, that are hiring for the summertime.
Also, it may be a good idea to talk to your teens about setting personal goals they want to accomplish this summer. Maybe they have some college applications to fill out or scholarship essays to write. You can encourage them to get some of this done in the summertime, before they get busy with school activities in the fall.
“Teens should use the summer to explore their interests,” she says. “Try learning a new skill, reading, working out or trying a small business like pet-sitting or tutoring.”
Stay involved and communicate with your teens this summer
“Check in regularly,” says Buyle. Don’t just ask what they’re doing — ask how they’re feeling, what they’re excited or worried about, and who they’re spending time with.”
It’s important to ensure that your teens spend time with others who share their goals and values.
“Peer pressure can be strong, so encourage your teens to surround themselves with people who make good choices,” she says.
She recommends telling your child if something feels off or risky, it probably is. Tell your child that summer fun isn’t worth damaging their reputation, health or future.
Make sure to talk to your teen about ways they can stay safe this summer
“Encourage teens to know where they’re going, who they’re going with, how they’re getting there and when they’ll be home,” says Buyle. “Since plans can change, assure them they can always call you for a ride — no matter the situation — without fear of punishment.”
It’s important to have an open dialogue with your teen so they will come to you when they do have a problem or aren’t feeling like they’re in a safe situation. Parties should be a big discussion, especially when you’re talking about underage drinking — and drinking and driving.
“Make sure your teen has a plan to say no to underage drinking if someone offers them alcohol,” she says. “Also, tell them if their ride is drinking, call a parent, trusted adult, or rideshare service.”
Have a discussion and come to some agreements on staying safe. Here are some ways that parents can start the conversation with their teens:
- “If you ever feel unsafe, call me and I’ll pick you up — no questions asked.”
- “If plans change, just send me a quick text so I know you’re okay.”
- “Let’s agree now on a curfew and what happens if it needs to change.”
- “Tell me who you’ll be with so I know someone’s watching out for you.”
“Having these conversations will help your child see that you care and trust them,” says Buyle. “Have an honest, judgment-free conversation with your teen about your expectations. Talk about alcohol, peer pressure, and what to do if plans change or something goes wrong.”
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